You’ve
head about the male suicide epidemic, right? Here’s how you can understand the
fact that men struggling with serious depression usually do not get help
ESPECIALLY when they seek it from “helping professionals.” (No, the reason is
not that which is expressed in the popular man-hater formula, “toxic
masculinity.”)
An
important survey of the professional literature:
EXCERPT:
Various factors contribute to social workers' neglect of men. One is that most
social workers are women and find it easier to work with women, whose outlook
and language are usually closer to their own. . . . In few if any social work courses are men —
their needs, their gender-related ways of manifesting and coping with distress,
and interventions specifically geared to them — an inherent part of the
curriculum.
To
right the imbalance and address the needs of men, social work must, first of
all, acknowledge that men have unique problems, needs and unique ways of
manifesting their distress (e.g. Baum, 2003). The
principles are the same as with any underserved population. In the absence of
sufficient knowledge, research is required on men's needs and problems (e.g. Guterman and Lee, 2005),
as well as on effective ways of offering and providing help to men so as to
increase the chances that they will accept it (e.g. Osborn, 2014).
Moreover,
to establish a good helping relationship with their male clients, it is
essential that female social workers take account of the possible effects of
the gender of the two parties.
Nehami
Baum, “The Unheard Gender: The Neglect of Men as Social Work Clients,”
British Journal of Social Work. 2016 Jul; 46(5):
1463–1471.
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Two
articles supporting and expanding on Nehami Baum’s findings:
Virginia
Amato (MSW, RSW), “Listening to Men: Are Men the Unheard Gender?” Journal of
Sociology and Social Work, December 2017, Vol. 5, No. 2, pp. 173-177.
Abstract:
An ontological view of conceptualizing the world that women are more important
than men may create a male gender bias which gets trapped in and blurs the
epistemological lens of how one sees the world. .. . .
Women
have voiced their concerns to helping professionals for their inequities and
people listened to the women (Turner, 2011). Men have voiced their concerns to
helping professionals for their iniquities, but few have listened to men’s
concerns leading to the perception of the “unheard gender” (Baum, 2015).
The
difference for women is that the helping institutions have implemented mandates
to encourage women and predominately entailed women listening to women (Turner,
2011). The problem a male client may encounter during the helping process may
be based on his gender (Baum, 2015; Smithers, 2012).
[Virginia
Amato (MSW, RSW), “Listening to Men: Are Men the Unheard Gender?” Journal of
Sociology and Social Work December 2017, Vol. 5, No. 2, pp. 173-177.]
ALSO: Virginia Amato, “The social construction of a possible male gender bias is negatively
impacting fathers in child welfare services: Hammering a square peg into a
round hole,” pp. 466-474, Pub. online: Feb. 7, 2018]
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This YouTube talk shows how the psychology profession overtly promotes anti-male behavior.
“The Psychology of Hate,” by Paul Elam from A Voice for Men Radio.
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READ THE FULL ARTICLE:
“Male suicide: a question of value,” A Voice for Men, Nov. 13, 2017
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Here’s an important new article about the “empathy gap” ---
, “Male
suicide: a question of value,” A Voice for Men, Nov. 13, 2017
“Published
under a pseudonym, it was written by a mainstream journalist who encountered
significant push back and refusals when he tried to have it published in more
mainstream channels. Thus he turned to A Voice for Men, where the facts matter more
than the narrative.”
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EXCERPT: Males in the U.S. die by suicide so much more than
females that the rate is an astounding 3.5 to 1, or 78 percent of all suicides.
That equates to once every 15 minutes. …
Yet the professional response to this is one of neutrality.
The website for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) has
comparative graphs of suicide by state, age, and even race, yet none for
gender. There is no mention of gender beyond the 3.5 statistic, and no section
discussing male suicide. Even in its opening video on the front page there are
no men, save a few in the background of a crowd. There is similar sparse
acknowledgement from the American Association of Suicidology (AAS) and the
Suicide Prevention Resource Center (SPRC). The SPRC has an underdeveloped
section about men in their “populations” tab. … [continued]
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ALSO: This articulate and crucial 28 minute talk on the overlooked facts of male suicide.
“The Truth about Male Suicide part one,” Men Are Good! (Tom
Golden), YouTube, Jun. 26, 2017, 14:25
“The Truth about Male Suicide part two,” Men Are Good! (Tom
Golden), YouTube, Jun. 26, 2017, 13:23
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BEING
MALE IN A FEMINIST CULTURE
Janice
Fiamengo
Professor of English, University of Ottawa
Professor of English, University of Ottawa
ABSTRACT:
According to our dominant cultural narrative, men in western societies are
privileged and powerful, and have used their power throughout history to
oppress and control women. Men's own accounts of their experiences, however,
tell a very different story. They highlight how it feels to believe, with
justification, that one is unwelcome--even despised--in one's own society. Such
stories of alienation must no longer be ignored. We can keep on telling men
that when they articulate experiences of powerlessness and injustice, they’re
really just bitter about sharing power with women, but the sting of the
injustice will not thereby diminish. We can keep on showing men that if they
object to the feminist story, a massive arsenal of shame will be unleashed upon
them, but that will only increase men’s anger and withdrawal.
Robert
Estephe’s note: "Feminism" is a political ideology, not an objective depiction of
reality, therefore the term "feminist" should never be confused with feminine or
woman-orirented.
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